Friends?? I don’t Think So

you may have read this elsewhere, As I posted it first on another blog, but really needed to be posted here.

Pet peeve #1 in Social Media/Internet Marketing…  Friends, but not really.   People wanting to “Friend” me on a social site like FaceBook, but not really serious about it.  Lets get real.

I don’t mind you wanting to be my “Friend” on Facebook or wherever I may be. In fact, I would love for you to be my “Friend.” Just tell me who you are and I probably would accept the “Friend” request. So you send me a request.  no note saying hello, no letter, nothing but a “Friend” request.  I get this…

Then when I want to see who you are… I get this…

So you want to be My Friend, but I have to send You a message first?? Am I right??  Buddy, You’re the one who requested the friendship first!! Shouldn’t the message come from YOU First??  Letting me know who you are and why I should accept the incoming request??  ? I don’t think so. At least buy me a drink and a kiss before we jump into the sack, ok??

How about trying to be social? After all, this is suppose to be social media/marketing  isn’t it?? So lets be social. Tell me why you want to be my friend when you request to be a “Friend”. Show me you are a little more human than a slug collecting germs and I will hit the accept button 99 out of 100 times.

Try this next time… Write a message introducing yourself. I don’t care if it’s a freak’ing form letter you created six months ago. At least it shows you are taking a little time and putting a little effort into forming this relationship.

See, even in the primitive days of email marketing, the scammers and spammers had more manners than many people on Facebook, Myspace or any other social media websites. They at least had the manners to create a friendly form letter introducing themselves to you before they hit you with the sucker punch.

You want to build up a “Friends” list that will rock the world and make you some serious cash down the road? Then put some thought into the relationship. Make them think you are serious and want to be friends. Even if you don’t, at least make it look right from the beginning and they will remember you later on down the road.

Pop in with an introductory letter or message saying “Hi, How are you? Saw your page and thought (blank) was really cool. Telling them why you like their page and why you want to be their friend. Next, don’t block them out when they want to see if you are real.

That is one thing I do like about the photo sharing site Flickr. There you can at least make them a contact or a friend before you ask them to do the same. Allowing them to get a taste of what you have to offer.

So Let’s Be friends. Ok?? Really.

Hope This Helps.
I know it helped writing it!!

Mark Anthony
Internet Marketing Business Coach